Prabu

The below content is authored by my daughter Aadhirai.

Prabu anand was born in may 1977 in Chidambaram. He is the only child of Kalivaradhan and Jeeva. Kalivaradhan was Manager of cooperative bank, Panruti and Jeeva, a housewife.

The house construction in Koothapakam had started some time back and had come to a close around 1.5years after Prabu’s birth.Since Kalivaradhan was working, most of the overseeing work was done by Jeeva.As soon as he was born, the family moved to koothapakam, cuddalore as the house construction was coming to an end too. The house warming function was done with the neighbours and they moved in. Then he was taken to Kala’s house and stayed there until she was married to Rajakrishnan after 1.5 years in 1980.Both Jeeva’s and Kalivaradhan’s mother lived with them. Kalivaradhan’s mother played a passive role and stayed in the sole front room of the house and would not interact with anyone. She passed away sometime later. Jeeva’s mother, Ambujam was staying very close with Prabu. She passed away when he was in tenth.They shared a room together and after her death, he felt the emptiness of losing someone. Prabu saw the touch of death for the first time.

In his childhood, he was close with most of his neighbours and regularly went to his friend’s house to play and spend time with them. In his exact age, there weren’t many children. So for a long time, he used to play with seniors. He played cricket often in his childhood. A long time relative aka friend is next door Vimala atha. He maintains a very close bond with her.She is a single woman with 2 children. She has never spoken about her husband regarding their separation. She did her duty and earned enough money through stitching to enroll both her children in school. Now they are well educated and have a family of their own. Her two children were almost nearby his age and used to spend time together briefly.

Right of the house was Vimala atha.Her two children are Sudharshan and Mugundhan. Opposite door was Kalivaradhan’s friend Chidambaranathan with his three children. Left of our house was Sriramalu and his children, Senthil and Kannan.Opposite to their house was Priya amma with two children.

Due to his mother’s over pampering (for many reasons like, he was a single child, he was conceived after a long time from their marriage after multiple miscarriages, he was treated with extra love. Jeeva’s cooking was very good and he grew up a healthy child slightly overweight for his age. He had faced body shaming which he began understanding once he attained that clarity of thought. As soon as he realized the problem, he began actively addressing it. He reduced his food portions drastically. He compensated for it by increasing his protein portions. He packed more than half of his box with side dish, vegetables, salad. He reduced his carbs. His anytime favorite food was peanut chikki. He simply adored it. In his later life he made it a habit to eat a mixture of fried peanuts with jaggery or country sugar depending on availability. He slowly let go of this habit as he began his weight reduction journey.

There was a annual day program in which he participated in a torch light dance. He had lost the torch light but was not ready to tell this to his mother. As his mother repeatedly questioned him about it’s whereabouts, he blamed it on a teacher. He insisted that the teacher had collected it. Along with this, he also learnt that each lie adds up to another lie leading to a mountain of lies. Then he decided that he would always speak the truth.

His school life could be divided into two parts. Until his 10th class, he considered himself average and didn’t put much effort into studying or achieving good grades. Although, he was a regular to various tuitions on his mother’s insistence. Once his 10th results had come, he was shocked. He Had imagined himself to be an average student. When he compared his marks with a student whom he thought to be studious, he realized the difference in marks were negligible. Then he decided that he would as well put some efforts and that there was no difference btwn him and the other boy.With this momentum, he continued his 12th prep. He studied meticulously. He calculated that he would gain 0.5 for each mark in chem, phy but in maths, each mark comes directly to total. He also followed his tuition maths teacher who would do all the sums in board. He would then understand and do it again so he learns the method. With this, he scored a remarkable score of 197 in maths. Although his heart earned for a centum, this was an unimaginable score for his younger self. His parents were naturally happy.

Then came the college application process. A friend of his had suggested about a coaching academy. So he along with his friends had enrolled for it. The process was so rigorous. There were continuous tests and all of them got very poor results.The friend who suggested it in the 1st place left it as he couldn’t bear to see that result. He left altogether. Prabu put as much effort as he was capable. The result was fruitful. His marks and other topper’s marks were comparable infact more. During this time, Kalivaradhan through his repeated efforts, was successful in obtaining a caste certificate. Along with the marks, this also aided in his admission into a government college where fees was low.

His college life began. He was enrolled in (ECE), electronics and communication course. He had imagined he would study about satellites and drones. It was far from that. His college was Thanthai Periyar Government Institute of Technology-Vellore (TPGIT). As it was a government college, there were no rules. Initially there were some ragging issues from his seniors. Once it became unbearable, he informed it to his father. Kalivaradhan spoke with some goons and threatened the students that they were ready to come anytime. This put an end to most of the ragging.

He spent most of his college days reading story books and barely focused on his studies. He always remembers Engineering drawing paper which he had lot of difficulty understanding but ended up scoring the most in.

He regularly went to the cinemas with his dad. Kalivaradhan was selective on what movies he will take his son. He watched tamil movies and a number of English action movies like Indiana Jones series, James Bond movies. He also took him to Jackie Chan movies and science fiction movies like “Honey I shrunk the kids” etc..He immensely enjoyed them and played all these movies for his children to watch too. He also appreciated Steven Spielberg, an American film maker’s movies. He also vividly remembered the Alladin movie as the show of colours were new to him. When the later real characters based was taken, he was even more astounded. He also like tom and jerry. He was a ardent fan of Charlie Chaplin, Laurel and Hardy series.There was a frnd of his, who would go to each and every film released, even the flop ones. When questioned, he jokingly told that the cine people are spending a lot of effort and money for this and it shouldn’t be wasted..

From his mother’s side, he was close with his grandfather. He took him to many places and to their native place, Rangareddipalyam, pondicherry. Since he was working in the exports, he also brought him a lot of chocolates and other eatables. Jeeva’s parents lived separately for a long time until each of their respective deaths. Jeeva’s mother Ambhujam lived with them in koothapakam.She had high rate of diabetics and was well taken care by her daughters.The father lived elsewhere.The younger daughter kala, Jeeva’s sister moved close to their home in Koothapakam.

Kala, had two daughters and a son. The 1st daughter, Savitha was a regular visiter to Jeeva’s house as compared to the 2nd daughter Nivethitha. Prabu always looked up to Muthuraman as a role model. Muthuraman was very well off. Then due to lending and people not paying back and trusting him with money and when what he expected did not happen, they demanded back their money, he faced a lot of financial trouble. He even had to leave his village and move to chennai. His wife, Vasanthi was very supportive. Their children Sudaakar and Diwakar. Prabu had seen the hardships Muthuraman had undergone, his life choices and his decisions. He has immense respect. When he goes to bus bay too, Muthuraman would drop him and send him off.

Koothapakam house had 3 separate house so the remaining two were rented. There was especially an muslim family with an elder brother and a sister. The elder brother is now working closely related to movies and cinematography. Since his mother Jeeva, had a temporary hostel for accommodating women when he had joined college in Vellore, he got many sister like figures. Even few years back, a woman from the hostel back then, visited our family and it was very nice to see them.

My dad had seen how his parents lived and adopted many habits and values from them. He changed whichever he felt necessary to lead a more better life. The most important among them was the habit of writing accounts. Even earlier , it was maintained but lacked credibility. The mother’s account’s expenses crossed income and when questioned, was given some explanation of money that came out of nowhere. He suspected it came from chit funds, loans both personal and bank. The father’s account had many missing as he hid few expenses like movies.These led to a large amount of accumulated loan.

As soon as college was coming to an end. The next chapter began. He had wanted to study MBA in any one of the IIM’s. His story book reading had not really improved his english skills and he ended up not clearing the minimum cut off. He had a lending library nearby and borrowed a lot of books.This was the time he got introduced to Sidney Sheldon, and other young adult pulp fiction writers.He completed his degree in the 1998 batch.So he had to resort to job search. He began to apply to as much companies as possible. He borrowed a cycle from his friend and went company by company to look for job. In most places the security in the gate would just get the letter from him and keep it elsewhere right in front of him. He took up a lot of odd jobs before a got a stable job in HCL.He was trying for jobs elsewhere too. He attended the interview for equinix. It was the start of a economic crash(low). He was almost the last one to be selected.The recruitment were closing for the season. There he had a good team with most malaysian chinese and some indian tamils. He had a farewell party arranged by his colleagues in HCL.

Once he got the offer letter, he made arrangements to go to singapore. He settled in with slight adjustments as it was an asian country. He initially rented the house with just another person. He went there around 2000. He retired by 2010 and came back to India to settle with his wife.

The primary aim once he got the job was to fully clear the loans. He saved each penny, it’s not used just to show the phrase but literally. He calculated and traveled accordingly. Made his food plans, health, walking, habits aligned to this aim. It was a goal which he pursued with single minded focus. He sent back money to India to pay of the mortgages. The first to be closed were the personal loans. As the relatives and close friends were the one who charged huge interest rates. Once everything was paid back, he strictly told his parents to not take any more loans and that he would pay back no more. He was very saddened and unhappy by this entire episode. During his working years, recession hit hard. People were fired right and left. Prabu acquired deep, in depth knowledge in his area of expertise and extended his circle of competence. When in later years questioned by Aadhirai if he was ever scared of being the next one to be fired, he (jokingly seriously) told that he was sure that he would be the last one to go from the building switching off the lights and fans.His job description was “operations Engineer”.

He had a nikon camera by which he captured many photos and even took the pains to name them.He visited many places by walk, public transport like Buona Vista(housing development), chinese garden, Funan(IT mall), Langkawi beach,KL telecom tower,Sungei Buloh National park, Batu caves, Hill train(Penang), Petronas KL, Pentai cenang. He travelled in Putra LRT, a driverless 47km transit line, STAR LRT(sistem transit aliran lingan), supreme court, snake temple, cheun fah jacob co.ltd shop, cruise, bird park, zoo, beaches, fountain light show, singapore parliament, underwater world, Siloso Beach,Clarke quay, malls, fun centres.There he saw dolphins, cable car.

When he was in Singapore, he went to auctions and bought some necessary things. He understood the true meaning of second hand things as it had a negative sense in India. He also purchased gold in a conservative way meaning he avoided the jewelry which were fancy or trending designs of that time.He purchased classic designs which had more value when compared to it’s making and wastage charges. Once when he had gone for walking, he saw a good deal of 5 in one speakers.He had earlier read about them. He bought it for around 400 dollars which was a good deal, as the speakers are still running.Earlier, a friend of his introduced him to good tamil songs, from the Rhythm movie. He was very fascinated with it. He began downloading songs and now he has over 10gb of tamil songs alone. His children have an additional 15 gb of other language songs. Prabu doesn’t listen to english or any other language as he feels he doesn’t understand. Hence he can’t enjoy them. Even if he understands, he doesn’t like the ideology. As part of his office, he had attended team lunches, beach visit where they constructed structures from straw dividing themselves into teams, relay races with balancing a ball on a stick, filling waterbottle by a water balloon.

There was a particular room mate named Achinta. He was a fairly well off guy from West Bengal,north India. When he saw Prabu save lot of money, he couldn’t stop himself from feeling jealous. He tried to copy everything from my dad but in vain as he could not continue them for long.Another room mate was mohan bala. He had gifted Prabu a shirt.Another person, named Srini ig Srinivasan was a frnd.

He does not play phone or video games. Once in his office, he had seen a guy play games full time. His supervisor caught him playing in the office and he was sacked.This was a powerful reminder.

Once a regular source of income began , he started looking for ways to save or invest so he could retire early and do what he likes instead of working under someone and being answerable for them. He began reading about investing, shares and started his portfolio. He faced strong opposition from his parents as they were unsuccessful when they tried their hand in it. He assured them that he was doing it with good knowledge and wouldn’t do anything silly or impulsive. He is successfully doing it without many expensive mistakes. He also has gained a lot of long lasting friendships through this. He respects Benjamin Graham, the writer of Intelligent Investor, Charlie Munger and Warren Buffet who own Berkshire Hathaways. He attends the 3i infotech’s meeting religiously or reads their transcripts.Prabu communicates with Giris on daily basis. He sends them a mail everyday giving them permission to lend shares.

Once he decided he was going to retire, he chose India over Singapore for many reasons. His first priority was his children’s education and future prospects. He could still see traces of discrimination even among children as well as adults.Then the way of life was different from what he wanted to give his children.There the competition was tough in studies and work too.To avoid testing fortuna, he stuck with the thought of returning to India so he can stay with both his and Raji’s parents.

Kalivaradhan began the house construction with directions from Prabu and oversaw the entire work patiently.The house construction came to end around 2010 and house warming was done. They moved in successfully.

The house was a spacious 2 storey house. It is always unicolor, white.The house is done in a more eco friendly way by leaving half for garden. In the garden, he had planted 4 coconut trees and numerous banana saplings. He at anytime, felt free to add many other different trees.Whenever he felt able,he would go to work in the garden. He would remove weeds and small saplings. Prabu is an avid reader and has consumed a lot of knowledge. Yet he’s humble as to what he knows. He has adopted a lot from Benjamin Franklin.He is up to date on current affairs. He regularly reads around 6plus newspapers with BBC, the print, ndtv, indianexpress, Kviy post. He reads a lot of books. Sometimes he applies but he mostly remembers or takes notes of what he needs to remember.

One thing i really wonder about him is why he doesn’t look at mirrors. It’s not even self admiration but he hardly looks at the mirror.Even when i tell him, he got carrot or spice stuck in his teeth, he prefers brute method like brushing or gurgling without even knowing the location.He used singapore airlines, air india airlines from where somebody had stolen a fork and spoon thinking finders keepers.

He’s really very health conscious. He regularly goes for walk. He uses google fit to track his vitals but is on a passive lookout for some app more simpler.

Prabu wasn’t interested in marriage but as an obligation he did it. The reception happened on 12.9.2003 in Mithila hall.He married Rajeshwari on 5.11.2003. The marriage was solemnized on 15.09.2003 as per records.They moved back to Singapore after some time. The in-laws paid visit alternately.They gave birth to two children, the eldest Aniruth Prabu and younger Aadhirai Prabu. Due to values misalignment problem, they applied for divorce on 14.12.2015. It was sanctioned by the court on 20.06.2016. Usually it is very normal for people to talk bad about someone for even small misunderstandings, issues. My dad is a noble man. He always talks very high of the good characteristics and values even in the woman who left him. This takes a lot of courage.This he extends to all humans.It is his nature to only see and talk of the good values.He of course understands the negatives and if possible distances himself or in cases where distancing is not possible(close relatives), he maintains enough distance to not be affected by that behaviour.For their marriage, Venkatavaradhan had taken some loans to buy the jewelry. When Raji complained of this to Prabu and the difficulties he faced, Prabu decided to send back all jewelry to unmortgage all. Prabu then bought gold especially for Raji to stop her from complaining of lack of jewelry.He always jokes that when Aniruth was in the womb, Raji was given saffron so the baby would be fair. Aniruth turned out to be chocolate brown. Apparently Aadhirai turned out to be on the fair side. He says saffron works slow.

Once the possessions were cleared, Kalivaradhan and Jeeva moved with us in Pondicherry. The entire groundfloor unit in cuddalore was also rented. Till 2021, they were taking good care of us or we were taking care of them is an unresolved mystery.Jeeva had broken her right arm and until it mended, we had our house maid, Meena do the cooking. Then when COVID hit, both anna and dad were affected in the 1st round. Once, my dad’s low bp problem led to him falling unconscious. This led to avva coming in close contact with him as she had to take care of him. Then she contacted COVID.She was always on some kind of self medication. She reported breathing difficulty.Then we were incapable of doing anything. She was admitted in JIPMER and was taken care by my grandfather. We prepared meals for her and delievered it. After 15 plus days, she had to be moved to ICU as it was more critical. She was unconscious. A relative of ours from Krishnapuram, Preethi was serving a contract of lab technician and had happened to recognize avva. Then slowly we lost avva to the disease. We were not allowed to do our ritual as her body still had COVID virus. Only very close relatives and few neighbours had come for her last rites. As support for us, Chennai & Rampakkam people stayed with us for the entire month. It was very kind of them. My dad had lost 1 parent.

Few months later, my grandfather developed Typhoid. We had mistook it for common cold and did not give the correct medication on time. This lead to him getting a heart attack though the exact cause is not known. He was laying with his head tilted to one side and was assumed to be asleep. Then realizing what was happening, we had taken him to JIPMER for confirmation. Coincidentally, Malathi aunty had come to visit him. Bhai uncle’s son in law too was of great help. Murali and ashwini’s child Pragya had dengue and was admitted in JIPMER aroudn this time and had come to help too. With Sri atha’s help, the process moved quicker. His death was confirmed. We brought back the body. All near and dear ones were called. My dad had lost both his parents one after another.

He took all of this very emotionally strongly. I don’t remember seeing him shed any tear. He was satisfied that he was able to provide them with a comfortable life in their old ages.

Since then he has took care of the cooking. It started in a clumsy manner as we had to learn everything. As a quick learner he grasped the basics and manipulated the complexities. He has come in par with 5star hotel grade chefs.His primary objective is health, then comes taste. He focuses on having a balanced diet. He is a vegetarian. He used to eat non veg when he was younger but completely stopped eating after reading about Gandhi’s life and teaching.Usually when some one is veg, they see eating non veg as crime.He treats it differently. He would help his children in cooking nv, washing.He also learns names of fishes so his children can enjoy eating them. He also doesn’t follow blindly any cooking myths, like storing cut onion in fridge leads to rotting..

He was always conscious of not wasting food. He tried as much as possible to not waste food. He would always try to reuse it anyways possible.

In religion, he was always moderate. He was never a blind believer of god, across all religion. He respected all though. He went relgularly to temples, holy visits along with his maternal grandmother. She also regularly went to tirupathi for which Prabu and his mom would come to send her off in tirupadripuliyur station. During his childhood, he was taken to the astrologers for them to read his future. He had predicted that Kalivaradhan until his death would have loans.Prabu got really annoyed.Since then he wanted to disprove all their predictions.He infact stopped visiting these cheaters.He destroyed his children’s horoscope and has never taken them to these idiotic rituals.The children are always thankful for this.This idiotic things they see are believed by people across different status, education level too.It is very comical sometimes even saddening to see peopel believing it and telling others.

I have never seen my dad learn anything through videos. The only video based he watches is 3i infotech’s financial meetings. He rarely watches youtube to see how a particular mechanism or device works. The only things he had shown in youtube to his daughter was the eurovision riverdance, chennai poromboke paadal, and environmental awareness song by T.M.Krishnan.He always prefers reading manuals and user guide if they exist. He had puchased a car, Ford icon in second hand. He fully read through the user manual and then only began working. He always thinks of ways of reusing what he has. He has a huge collection of wires of various sizes just in case they would be needed again. To be honest,it has been used each time we had an electrical work in our house.

In his talk, he usually aims for moderation. When he is irritated or hurt, he would impulsively say ‘I will never ask that again". Then he will realize that is not the correct method and would acknowledge it. He has read many emotional intelligence books and actively applies them. He immensely enjoyed reading “Non violent communication”.I have never seen my dad talk bad words. He has his emotions well under control. He only scolds his children when they do a mistake that affects their character. His way of bringing up children can even be written as a book. Nowadays, people rush into marriage without understanding the commitment behind it. My dad understood and wonderfully discharged his duties. His work needs to be given credit. That will come under the form of the success of both of his children.

He also is exceptionally good with cartography. He can understand the location of any place simply with directions alignment. He will remember locations accurately with landmarks that are quite long lasting.I have requested him to take a blank paper and fill it with whatever he remembers from the maps. He in fact learned all this only by studying maps extensively. He associates things in a very connected and meaningful manner.

Since his youth, he wanted to contribute back to the society. He had initially been very enthusiastic about farming and is still is ig. So with his father in law acting as broker, he bought around 80+ acres of land near Madurai and was planning few things. As he had the problem of sinuses, he couldn’t himself work in fields nor stand nearby when work is going on. The distance back and forth was also too far.So, for a long time, the farming activities were taken slowly. He wanted to create a self sustainable land that doesn’t depend on humans to care for it.Then he realized the sheer impossibility of his plan.Then he donated the lands to charity as donation. He bought 20 acres near kovadi. He began farming casuarina. He has a farm help, the gardener Mohan. Regularly he would call and visit to know the status, plant growth, weather. As part of this mindset, he makes a lot of contributions to alpine wiki. People began using the wiki and gave feedback.He was even offered the role of patroller which he gladly accepted. He later renounced it as he had other works to attend to.

There are few favorite values that my dad always talks about. Truthfulness, being independent.He always tells us that we should live life according to our wants. One of the many things he understood when Rajeshwari left was living for oneself. He thought that she was deprived of few things because of being with him. She adjusted with it when she was married to him but she soon could not put up with it.Initially when trying to understand each other, he had asked her what a good weekend would be like. She told something similar to waking up late, having meal either prepare or bought, then followed by a movie and ending with having dinner outside.He was shocked but he clearly told that he is not that kind of person.

The one thing I am always amazed by him is that although his married life ended, he has decided not to marry anyone. He has never shown any interest in the topic. When asked why, he told that he doesn’t want to see his children being treated differently. When he was divorced, he was quite young. The financial status he was in, he could have chosen anyone. He chose to remain with his kids. I am always thankful for this decision. I ofcourse do not know if it would have made our life better or difficult but why test fate? Now as he is growing old, I am deeply worried for his well being. I will rest assured if either one of us are with him. I want him to marry but it sounds more for convenience than virtue so i couldn’t even take this topic with him.

Prabu’s determination when he wants to do something is unbelievable. He even stays awake full night when he is working on some topic. He always aims to contribute to open source software.He also maintains a domain where he is hosting fava, our files, his notes, journal. He makes a lot of changes regularly and takes feedback with an open mind. His site is wonderful and regularly checked by his daughter.

His self control is great.After college he decided to stop reading fiction. He only breaks this when the novel is especially good. He read Harry Potter and Ponniyan Selvan and very few others due to his daughter’s insistence.This also applies to not eating non veg. He only broke it once when he was very sick during covid and ate omlette for strength.

He maintains very good relationships with most of his relatives.The word most is to exclude the “relatives” who had lent money to Jeeva at a higher interest rate.He invites people to home very freely and does good hospitality when they do come.Similarly when invited and if a purpose exists, he would visit them back. He is very generous when it comes to giving gifts.He is still in contact with cuddalore neighbor’s children(play buddies), college mates(Dynamite group), work colleagues(HCL, equinix). Very long time friends include Jayanth appa, Asha. There’s Kovadi Mohan, the gardener aka farmer in dad’s casuarina farm. Prabu regularly calls him and cares more about him and his family. He need not do anything as everything is on the basis of money but he understands that there are few things which matter more than money like care, remembering, sharing small happiness(birth of a cow, goat, rain).

He always requests his children to be kind with him. He sometimes feels that they speak harshly. They don’t intend to speak harshly, sometimes they are saddened or angry by what he is saying.When he sleeps late, he’s interfering with his body’s natural circadian rhythm.Now he won’t see the effects. He could have done many night shift work when he was younger but they want him to understand that he’s no longer young.His body will slowly show the effects and they don’t want it to be severe.

He learnt minimalism quite early. He tries to follow it across various sphere of life. He even had only 2 children:)..He always has clothes but on limit.Even when he purchases dress, he does one at a time and also disposes one. He will use it and if he feels comfortable in it, will buy one more if necessary.He was very cool with his 2 cargo pants.Nowadays he regulars dhoti but Aadhirai has been telling him to move to shorts as before.Can’t find shorts of same quality or price which comes for a decent period of time.

Peer pressure disappears when it sees Prabu. He doesn’t do anything to fit in with any group. Well he actually did something once. We used to go to laughing clubs. There we were made to laugh without purpose just to activate the muscles. Apart from that, he has never tried to impress anyone but giving expensive gifts, spending time hanging out in hotels, malls, changing his dressing styles…

His accounting skills deserves “Best of accounting” award. He meticulously notes down all his spending from smallest to largest not even forgetting 1’s and paise.He regularly checks the tally.When it tallies correctly, the happiness in his face is unmatchable.He has also instilled this behavior in his children.He not so regularly updates their accounts and sends them a generous amount.

There are many things i don’t know about his life. Prabu has never shown any differentiation between a girl child and a boy child. Since childhood, he has taught and brought us up only teaching equality.He has never shown partiality. I will be forever grateful to him for this. Infact i don’t have words to thank him. He scolds us both equally when we have made a mistake. He has the same rules on friends, food, time, studies and take anything else. He might not have taken this seriously but each moment he is considered a great role model.He has brought up two children who will grow up practicing equality.

Prabu loves traveling. His dream is to travel around the world. He first aims to travel around India. He likes to go to new places, explore new roads just to see where it leads to, talk with people about their lifestyle.He quickly adapts to his new environment without much complaining. He shows his curiosity even while walking by taking different turns.

Most crucial part is his farting. He silently does it and looks like an innocent child who has just woken up from bed.If not caught, he casually continues with his work. If caught, he turns around smilingly and starts explaining with the most serious face expression that it is part of our body’s natural sounds.He also insists that as we grow old, it becomes uncontrollable. Since I have not come to that stage, i will just accept whatever he is saying. My only wish is that nobody should laugh at him for that.His own children and himself are exception.

Sometimes, he doesn’t remember what his children tell him. This is normal and happens to everyone. His hearing is also near half but it’s the graceful part of growing old. I remember lamenting to him that I was probably born at the wrong time as there is noting else to discover.I was under the impression that everyone else had succeeded due to their time.Well known scientists or philosophers have told what we commonly know now but in their times were new.Then they were spoken high of.Recently Prabu had sent me an article about the unknown functions of some 100 plus genes.This gesture of him reminded me that he really understands even our dumbest lamentation.

He is very good help when someone is sick.For a long time, it was a habit of Savitha Yoganandham to come to our home during her periods.Although the reason was lame, Prabu did not object for a long time. Then this had to be stopped.His daughter attained puberty around 11 yrs. Although Jeeva was there, Prabu studied about it extensively.He even learnt about the periods products and helped his daughter. He considers himself very conservative. He doesn’t appreciate modern practices like short dress, club, etc.. Honestly what is modernity? Wearing short dress? At anytime you would discover someone wearing even shorter dress..Does it mean nudity is the ultimate goal. Similarly the so called modern things are a society formed roadmap to mental asylum.This could have been read and understood but a living example is unbeatable. Prabu was very modern when he suggested the use of menstrual cup. His daughter tried it too but she got bartholin cyst and could not continue with it. His daughter was able to successfully undergo the minor marsupialization operation only due to the emotional support from Prabu. He always stays strong and supports her during her monthly periods pain although he is not capable of understanding it.

Prabu is very understanding. He knows and remembers what his son and daughter like and dislike in food and will cook accordingly so each eats their respectively favorite food. Now that I think of it, I can’t seem to name any of his favorites. It would probably be igarampettna vannam,moon dal kichadi and house.I give up. Idk what he likes. Since childhood, Aadhirai had earned for a pet. He knew that. He objected not beacuse buying it was hard. He knew that priorities would change and the pet care would be neglected. After growing old, when the pet dies, we wouldn’t be strong enough to bear the pain.Despite these many warnings, on Aadhirai’s insistence he took her to Bark India to adopt a pup. Then seeing the actual amount of care needed, the idea was dropped. Anytime else when suddenly the want of having a pet comes, Prabu would jokingly act like a dog, monkey, donkey.

Prabu’s sudden sleeps are very funny to watch. He definitely sleeps on Aravind eye hospital visits and when we attended the ISHA farm meeting, he slept through some parts.

Prabu usually accepts his children’s requests without much ado. He has celebrated many birthday parties for both of them by inviting people and buying huge amounts of cake.He never said no.It was very kind of him.When his children did not enjoy the holy visit to thirupathi due to the rush, he never forced them to go again.He bought phone for Aniruth and a laptop. He bought phone and laptop for Aadhirai. Even when she asked for braces, he didn’t object.He usually doesn’t restrict the number of dresses they buy. He only cautions them not to waste dresses without wearing.Although Prabu was earning well, when Raji wanted to just go for job, he didn’t object. She worked as an assisstant in NYK orion for a naval company ig not sure tbh.

Prabu has a positive outlook on life.He sees the negatives through positive eyes. His explanation of dry skin issues is that it is much better than oily skin as adding is better than removing.Even when he realized his daughter has all the skin issues to a higher degree, he took care without complaining. Even when she laments, he tells her it’s okay. They can face whatever happens. What could possibly happen worse? This approach unintentionally motivates his daughter to continue with her life with less regrets and a positive approach.He serves as a great mental support.

Prabu believes in upliftment of everybody’s life. He doesn’t think that people should stay where they are.He is of the highest opinion that only education and good moral character can lift a person.He stopped getting commodities from ration as he thought that people who are really poor and unable to afford should be benefited by it. If most people thought like this, India has real chance of development. Prabu religiously does his income tax filing. He used to take help from auditor but now he has become self reliant in accounting. True patriotism doesn’t mean pinning the Indian flag to the chest and singing the nation anthem in the road, it is about doing one’s duties.